How comfortable are you with yourself? It might seem like an odd question, but many would admit that they’re not comfortable with themselves.
One way to figure this out is to reflect on your interactions with other people. Do you feel relaxed and comfortable in your skin the majority of the time? Or do you feel awkward, tense, and restless?
If you’re still reading at this point, let’s assume that you are interested in improving your quality of life. Below are some key points that we highly recommend you consider.
Understand that you are always changing
Who you are is always changing, and that’s a good thing. Throughout your life, you will experience various situations and learn new things, which will change you. Try to remember what you were like 10 or five years ago. You are likely a different person now. The same goes for your appearance.
Don’t hold on to your old self
More often than not, the changes are not the issue. Change is given in life. However, problems usually occur when you resist change.
If you’re new to the amputee life, you may find yourself looking back with envy at your old lifestyle. However, it’s best for your mental health and emotional well-being if you resist getting caught up in envying your past self. Indulging in this behavior won’t help you become comfortable with your present self.
Do your best to accept your new self. When you let go, you can make space for changing your circumstances to something more favorable. For example, instead of spending too much time reminiscing the past, you can be more present during your prosthetic training sessions or prepare yourself to join an adaptive sport.
Your present self has just as much, if not more, opportunities for growth as your former self. You only need to adapt to your body’s new form and ways of working.
Don’t pressure yourself to be good at all things
There are people out there who will always be better than us at everything. So, there is no need to pressure yourself to be good at all things or to be the best at one thing. This is a recipe for feeling uncomfortable and even disappointed at yourself.
Often, this feeling of discontent can lead to feeling like a failure, which is counterproductive to what we’re trying to do. A healthier approach is to do your best at a few things that matter to you. Let go of perfectionism.
Focus on parts of yourself that you like
It’s easy to zero in on your perceived flaws and feel bad. However, your life (and confidence) will significantly improve if you start spending more time noticing the parts you like. Maybe you’re a talented creative, friendly, or you like how you look when you smile. Every little detail counts.
Focusing on the qualities that make you feel good about yourself will help you realize that you are unique, and you have a lot to contribute. Moreover, when you view yourself more positively, you become more comfortable and confident in your own skin.
Reframe flaws as areas of potential growth
We all have something that we don’t like about ourselves, but instead of feeling bad about them, see them as opportunities for growth. For example, if your posture isn’t ideal and the chronic back pain is making your days unbearable, you can work with your prosthetist or physical therapist.
While there are things that we can improve, there are areas that you can’t change, such as your genetics. Find ways to accept these areas. Acceptance is also an indication of growth.
Practice being alone
Sometimes, that uncomfortable feeling stems from the fact that you’re not used to being by yourself. Spend some time in solitude and sit with your thoughts. Hearing yourself think and maybe writing them down are great ways to practice being comfortable in your own skin.
Get comfortable with discomfort
Since change is inevitable in life, the only way to get comfortable in your own skin is to be prepared for change and the discomfort that will ensue. It’s natural to feel unsure when you’re out of your comfort zone. The important thing is not to get paralyzed by the potential for discomfort.
Being comfortable in your own skin is a delicate balance of acceptance and improvement. Accept things that you cannot change, but work on improving in areas that can be enhanced and can lead you closer to being the person that you want to be.Are you comfortable in your own skin? If yes, what strategies did you implement to reach your current state? If you have other tips that we haven’t covered, please do let us know.